There comes a point
in life where you look at where you are, how far you have come, what you
have gained and where you are going. When I do this I always like to
look at what the changes were that I made which helped me accomplish
what I have so far in life and in doing so I realise that most of those
changes were who I allowed into my life and let go of.
Most of us understand the concept of staying positive in order to
accumulate more positivity and to live a happy life. The Law of
Attraction. What you put in you’ll get out. Reap what you sow etc. etc. –
A lot of the time though we don’t realise that in order to do so we
need to be aware of the toxic people in our lives.
It takes deep self-honesty to do so because a lot of the time it is hard
to admit you have made a wrong decision in befriending someone who is
actually toxic to your life or you might be under the impression that
you love this person. Ultimately the choice will have to be made as to
whether you choose to keep living this way with these people in your
life – or you have to break free and live the life you were born to
pursue – a happy positive and abundant one.
A quote from Brian Carruthers – “You are, or will become, the average of the five people you associate with the most.”
I like to think of my home and space as an area of positivity – a place
where my family and I feel safe and secure. Together as positive
separate units we make one big happy ball of positivity. This makes me
feel like together we are more powerful in attracting abundance and even
more happiness. I like to visualise it in my mind as a yellow giggly
happy ball of family squishiness and love. Of course everyone has their
ups and downs. Of course we are allowed to cry and vent if we need to.
When it is over it is gone though and we try to move on from it. It is
very important to feel every emotion you experience so you can
understand it and learn how to deal with it. This is why, when I allow
someone into our space, I am very careful and cautious about who they
are because negative people don’t just affect your vibrations but they
affect the energy around them and everyone else around them. I know of a
few people who I would never allow into my space because it would feel
like I am compromising the positive vibes our unit has already created.
Negative people are noticeably pessimistic and will exhaust you.
Damaging energy and drama follow them everywhere and they can pull you
into their chaos disrupting your focus and side-lining your goals.
Negative people can sometimes behave irrationally and you will waste
your time and energy if you try to make sense of their actions. I don’t
think it is possible to continually live with someone like this in your
life without either falling into the same pattern they follow or
becoming completely drained from either trying to shield yourself from
them or by trying to help them/listen to them.
You might think that when you are “detoxing” your life from these toxic
people that you might start feeling lonely but in the long run it is
better to have a few good friends than a whole bunch of negative
destructive ones. Slowing start building new positive friendships. In
the end every time you subtract negativity from your life you make room
for more positive.
You might also think that the amount of drama it will cause in trying to
get rid of them is not worth it in the end but maybe just by remaining
positive and limiting your time with negative people they will eliminate
themselves from your life without you having to do anything. Or seeing
as though we are trying to be more positive here you might even turn
them into positive thinkers! You will have to realise though that if
someone is not on the same vibrational level as you and they can’t lift
themselves up to your level that your paths will inevitably split. From
my own experience leaving it to that point is even more draining.
Ultimately what matters is that you are living the best life that you
can. You cannot live a fulfilled life when other people are dragging you
down in whatever negative way that they do it. You have free will –
don’t forget that. Free will means you ultimately determine what you
believe. Freedom is the ability to say yes or no. Free will is the
ability to do so. Free will is the exercise of freedom, the ability to
choose between alternatives. We have a choice. This means you don’t need
to let people affect you negatively, you don’t need to allow negative
people into your life. The decision is yours. Know your worth.
“Every day you must unlearn the ways that hold you back. You must rid
yourself of negatively, so you can learn to fly.” – Leon Brown
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